We had such a wonderful Holiday or as we call it "Festivus" a funny plot from the Seinfeld Show. George's Dad refuses to get 'taken' in by the commercialism (is that a word?) of the Christmas Season. So we adopted it as our Holiday too! There is more to the story of why we really changed it, but it basically boils down to the pagan origins of Christmas/Winter Solstice & roots of the symbols that go with today's holiday season. As the years have past we've made a few adjustments because it's one of very few times during the year that our extended families all get together, have time off from work etc.etc. Plus we don't have the little ones running around all confused as to 'why we don't do all the 'stuff' their friends do' any more. That was challenging, but something I was truely committed to, sticking to my core beliefs of the facts as I found them to be.
ANYWAY,
ANYWAY,
Matthew, Kathy, Josh & Trevor were all with us here for an awesome Ribeye Steak & Shrimp Cocktail dinner. I'll have to admit that we are so far from 'main stream' families. I really love it that way, I recall when Kim & I had just had Matthew. We were talking about our parenting priorities & I told Kim then (1981) that I wanted my kid's to be 'free thinkers' 'being leaders not followers' 'making decisions of their own & seeing the results good or bad' ... boy did I fulfill that plan! lol! ANYWAY, in lock-step with my anti-main-stream living, Christmas & most other 'regular' days for most of the world, aren't what we do usually..lol! How many people stop & really ask the big question --"WHY?" Why do we 'do' that? "WHAT?" What does 'it' symbolize? If your answers are like mine were (which was, because we have always done it that way) You're in for a great surprise if you ever want to research some of it.
Today, Matthew called & said "Mom, Kathy & I were talking about our "Festivus" Dinner & we were wondering if you were cooking Turkey?"
HA! " No Way!" I said "But if that's what you guys want I'll cook a turkey for our dinner."
He laughed & said "We hate Turkey! And everywhere else they're serving TURKEY!" YYYyyyyuuUUUcccKKKKkkkkkkOOOOOoooo...
"I had a super-secret-menu planned, ALREADY!" neeeennnneerrrrrr- nnneennneeeerrrr-lol!
The dinner was wonderful & kept secret until everyone came for our "Festivus" family gathering.
In a nutshell, it was wonderful to sit at our dinner table surrounded by my 3 sons, my girl & turning to my right is My Man of 27 years! Still with me, So Cute, So Proud , So Amazing.
Kim made such a sweet toast to our boys & Kathy about how much we love them & are so proud to have Kathy at our table & apart of our family. We look at Matthew & our heart skips a beat to see him with his Bride both still beaming with love for eachother. Then there's Joshua with that sweet smile & loving eyes looking right back at me, finally getting a bit of relief from that past few turbulent, painfilled years ... I adore Josh & the young man he is, I feel loved by him everytime I hear his voice on the phone or look into those beautiful baby blues! Our Baby Trevor who has given me so many great times of laughing together, crying together & making me want to try something new again while fighting thru my fears to accomplish the goal. Trevor has a silent strong presence about himself, confident that the 'situation' will be okay. And their Brotherhood is to be envied by all onlookers! They are wonderful young men that are there for us & most importantly always there for eachother. Just as I always dreamt for them. Then dinner was served :o) after a few more toasts....which brings me to this.... WHY is it that I can NOT talk to my family without crying like a baby these days???? I just don't get it! I'm a snivvvvveeelllllinnngggg mussshhhyyyyy quivering voiced MESS when I want to tell them all what true joy each one brings to me & how much I love them. It, those feelings, are so deep & felt so raw by me sometimes-most times- who am I kidding it's that deep 24/7/365 :o) That to say it outloud makes me a melted mush ball in the middle of the floor. lol! Gosh those Farrer Guys & that Farrer lady are L.O.V.E.D.
I''m such a lucky lady huh!
Happy Festivus..or whatever you choose to celebrate...Just remember to give Thanks for the awesome Gift Of Love we all have from Jehovah himself, how else would I have such wonderful people in my world! *grin*
